* The 10 yr old got me going when I put the baby down for a nap and got in the tub he began playing his guitar loudly. We had a confrontation and I spoke strongly too him using some poorly chosen words like "you better damn well find out" in response to his "I didn't know" Which was a good lesson topic and I didn't over talk it and I didn't really yell at him. I spoke firmly. The lesson topic specifically said was "There will be many times in your life where you 'don't know' but you'd better damn well find out."